Speaking about Allah without Knowledge.

This article is based on a lecture by Jamal Zarabozo on the topic of “Usool at-Tafseer” or “Principles of Quranic Interpretation” (1/12).
In his tafseer, Al-Qurtubee brings notice to those people who use conjecture when reading the Quran, and say things such as “my heart tells me,” or “what comes to mind,” and so forth. He cautions that in such cases, people are speaking about Allah without knowledge (‘ilm), which is one of the greatest sins that one could commit.
When one attempts to explain a verse from the Quran without having the proper knowledge or methodology, one might be actually following ones hawaa (desires), might be following an inspiration from the Shaytaan, or might be following dhann (conjecture). Rarely, one might
actually be following some kind of inspiration from Allah (SWT) (and only Allah subhanaho wa ta’ala (SWT) knows best.)

So, saying that Allah (SWT) probably means such and such in a specific verse is akin to speaking or saying something on behalf of Allah (SWT), and such opinions based on superficial knowledge (‘ilm) are one of the greatest sins that one could commit. Ibn Al-Qayyim mentions in his book “Madaarij As- Saalikeen” (1:372-3) that speaking about Allah (SWT) without `ilm is the greatest sin that one could commit. He bases this on the following verse from the Quran:

“Say: The things that my Lord has indeed forbidden are al-Fawaahish (great evil sins, every kind of unlawful sexual intercourse, etc.), whether committed openly or secretly, sins (of all kinds), unrighteous oppression, joining partners (in worship) with Allah for which He has given no authority and saying things about Allah of
which you have no knowledge.” [Surah Al-A’raaf: 33]

In discussing this verse, he reminds the readers of the concepts of haraam li-dhaatihi (forbidden due to their own evil nature), and haraam li ghairihi (forbidden because they lead to some evil or have some evil in them.) Regarding the above verse, he notes that the four issues
mentioned in the verse are haraam li dhaatihi (haraam in their own essence), because of the evil in them. For example, he explains that Allah (SWT) first mentions al- fawaahish, which is the least of the four mentioned in the verse. Next, Allah (SWT) mentions the sins of trespassing against the truth; which is a greater sin than the previous one.
Then, Allah (SWT) mentions the act of shirk, and finally the issue of saying things about Allah (SWT) without knowledge is mentioned. The last one is worse because it involves acts that are worse than committing shirk . For example, it
involves: Ascribing something falsely to Allah (SWT). Changing or altering the religion of Allah (SWT). Denying what He has confirmed or confirming what He has denied, Affirming something as false or declaring something false as true, and it also includes supporting something that Allah (SWT) dislikes or opposes,
Supporting something that Allah (SWT) dislikes
or opposes, and liking something that Allah
(SWT) dislikes.

In other words, when one speaks without ‘ilm, in matters of the religion, then one is in fact changing the religion of Allah (SWT). Ibn Al-Qayyim further mentions that speaking without `ilm about Allah or the Quran is the real source of all kufr and shirk. Ibn Al-Qayyim highlights an example of the polytheists who in the times of the prophet (s.a.w.s) claimed that their acts of worshiping things other than Allah (SWT) were in reality meant to take them closer to Allah (SWT). So, their act of shirk was saying something about Allah (SWT) without `ilm, and something they did not know about Allah (SWT).

Ibn Al-Qayyim also mentioned that every bid’aah
(innovation) has its roots in making statements that have no support from the Quran and Sunnah, or in other words every bid`aah is based on some statement that is falsely attributed to Allah without evidence or knowledge (`ilm.)

We observe from the Islamic history that even the companions of the prophet (s.a.w.s) who lived their lives alongside the prophet and witnessed the revelation of the Quran and were firsthand familiar with the events, refrained from opining anything about the Quran, Allah, or His prophet (s.a.w.s). Instead, one observes that they
regarded such careless acts of attributing things to Allah and His Messenger (s.a.w.s) as absolutely forbidden.

For example, Abu Bakr one time said, “What earth would give me place to live and what sky
would shade me if I should speak about the Quran with my opinion or by something I do not know.”

And `Umar Ibnul Khattaab, he also said, “Beware of using your opinion in religious matters.”

And Ibn `Abbaas, the one who the Prophet (SAW) made du`aa for him to understand the Quran, to get the understanding of the Deen, and to be given by Allah (SWT) the ta`weel or the understanding of the Quran, he also said,
“All that there is to follow and obey is the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Messenger. Whoever makes any statement after these two according to his opinion, then I do not know if you’ll find among his good deeds or among his sins.

Ibn `Abbaas made other such statements where he noted that even if what one did seems good and looks good, but one will discover such acts as sins on the Day of Judgment.
The companions, therefore, were quite stringent about not attributing anything to Allah and His messenger and about matters of haram and halal.

Let us ensure that we don’t fall into such traps and correct others who may be careless about such issues.

Reference:
Audio lecture on “Usool at-Tafseer” (1/12)

The Future of Muslims and Islam in Angola: Angola ‘Bans Islam’, Dismantles Mosques.

Angola
A number of news outlets have reported that Angola has “banned” Islam and started to dismantle mosques in a bold effort to stem the spread of Muslim extremism.

Weekly French-language Moroccan newspaper La Nouvelle Tribune published an article on Friday sourcing “several” Angolan officials, including the Southwest African nation’s minister of culture, Rosa Cruz, who reportedly offered the following remarks, which have been translated from French: “The process of legalization of Islam has not been approved by the Ministry of Justice and Human Rights. Their mosques would be closed until further notice.”

The media reports have not described why Islam would need to be legalized, considering its presence in the country for many years.

OnIslam.net reports that the African economic news agency Agence Ecofin wrote that Cruz made the statement at an appearance last week before the 6th Commission of the National Assembly. The website goes on to note that, “According to several Angolan newspapers, Angola has become the first country in the world to ban Islam and Muslims, taking first measures by destroying mosques in the country.”

Even Angola President José Eduardo dos Santos has weighed in on the controversy, as he was quoted in Nigeria’s Osun Defender newspaper on Sunday as saying, “This is the final end of Islamic influence in our country,” according to the OnIslam.net report.

The reported comments by Cruz and Santos echo the stance of the governor of the country’s Luanda province, Bento Francisco Bento, who reportedly maintains that “radical Muslims were not welcome in Angola and that the government was not ready to legalize the presence of mosques in the country,” according to a La Nouvelle Tribune summary of Bento’s take on the issue.

In a physical extension of the officials’ sentiments about Islam’s place in Angola, La Nouvelle Tribune said that a minaret of an Angolan mosque was dismantled last October, and that the city of Zango “has gone further by destroying the only mosque in the city.”

The emerging reports about Angola “banning” Islam and dismantling mosques point to the anti-Islam sentiments held by many in the nation’s citizens, but they could not immediately be independently verified by International Business Times.

Angola is a majority-Christian nation of about 16 million people, of whom an estimated 55 percent are Catholic, 25 percent belong to African Christian denominations, 10 percent follow major Protestant traditions, and 5 percent belong to Brazilian Evangelical churches. Only 80,000 to 90,000 Angolans are Muslim, according to the U.S. State Department.

About the Last 10 Verses of Surah Aal-e-Imran

In a hadith that Ibn Marduwyah recorded, Ataa said, “I, Ibn Umar and Ubayd bin Umayr went to Aishah and entered her room, and there was a screen between us and her. She said, ‘O Ubayd! What prevents you from visiting us’ He said, `What the poet said, `Visit every once in a while, and you will be loved more.’ Ibn Umar said, `Tell us about the most unusual thing you witnessed from the Messenger of Allah.’ She cried and said, `All his matters were amazing. One night, he came close to me until his skin touched my skin and said, `Let me worship my Lord.’ I said, `By Allah I love your being close to me. I also love that you worship your Lord.’ He used the water and performed ablution, but did not use too much water. He then stood up in prayer and cried until his beard became wet. He prostrated and cried until he made the ground wet. He then laid down on his side and cried. When Bilal came to alert the Prophet for the Dawn prayer, he said, `O Messenger of Allah! What makes you cry, while Allah has forgiven you your previous and latter sins’. He (s.a.w.s) said,

(O Bilal! What prevents me from crying, when this night, this Ayah was revealed to me,)

“Verily! In the creation of the heavens and the earth, and in the alternation of night and day, there are indeed signs for men of understanding. ” (Surah Aal-e- Imran:190)

He then said:
“Woe to he who recites it but does not contemplate it’s (meaning).”

About the term “Uli Al-baab” (men of understanding) in the verse, it refers to the intelligent and sound minds that contemplate about the true reality of things, unlike the deaf and mute who do not have sound comprehension.
Allah said about the latter type in the Quran,

“And how many a sign in the heavens and the earth they pass by, while they are averse there from.” Surah Yousuf (105).

Allah then describes those who have good minds in the verse that follows in Surah Aal-e-Imran:

“Those who remember Allah standing, sitting, and lying down on their sides, and think deeply about the creation of the heavens and the earth, (saying): “Our Lord! You have not created this without purpose, glory to You! Give us salvation from the torment of the Fire.”

In a related authentic report that was narrated by al- Bukhari and Muslim from Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him), that the prophet (s.a.w.s.) stayed one night with Maymoonah, the Mother of the Believers, who was his maternal aunt. He said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) slept until
halfway through the night, or just before or after that. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) then woke up and started wiping the sleep from his face with his hand. Then he recited the last ten verses of
Surah Aal Imran, then he got up and went to a water skin that was hanging there, and did wudu (ablution) from it and did it well, then he stood and prayed. Al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “This indicates that it is mustahabb (desirable) to recite these (ten) verses when getting up from sleep.”

Summary

*Al-Nawawi’s interpretation on the hadith mentioned above was that it is mustahabb
(desirable) to recite the last (ten) verses of Surah
Aal-e-Imran when getting up from sleep.

*There is no saheeh hadeeth (authentic report)
from the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah
be upon him) which would indicate that the one who recites the last ten verses of Surah Al ‘Imran will have recorded for him the reward of spending the night in worship (as is mistakenly
thought by some.) (islamqa.info)

*When verse number 190 of the Surah was
revealed on the prophet (s.a.w.s), it had a
considerable effect on him and we should strive to ponder on that verse and on the rest of the Quran verses as well.

References: Tafsir Ibn Kathir / islamqa.info / Noble Quran.

Significance of Masjid-Al-Aqsain Jerusalem (Haram Al-Shareef)

To Muslims, Jerusalem houses one of the holiest Mosques, the Masjid-al-Aqsa and represents a place of greatest religious significance. Muslims call to rule over Jerusalem is not driven by colonist, nationalist or material motives. The love of every grain in the Holy City is sacred to Muslims. Muslims respect all the Prophets revered by Judaism and Christianity and their venerated places are also central to the ethos of Islam.

To quote a few Quranic verses and sayings of Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) with regard to Jerusalem will indicate the importance Masjid al Aqsa and therefore Jerusalem has assumed upon the Muslims hearts.

1. The miraculous journey of the holy Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) from Makkah to Masjid al Aqsa (al Isra) and his ascension through the heavens (al Ma’araj) has linked Jerusalem to the Muslims hearts and minds. The Holy Quran states: “Glory to Allah who did take His Servant for a journey by night from the Sacred Mosque (in Makkah) to the Al-
Aqsa (in Jerusalem) whose precincts We did bless (al- Isra 17: 1)

The Lord Almighty had it in His power to have taken Prophet Muhammad from Makkah straight up to the heavens. However, to impress the importance of Jerusalem upon Muslims the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) was first taken to Masjid al Aqsa in Jerusalem.
When the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) reached al Aqsa (Haram Shareef), he led prayers in congregation that was attended by all the previous Prophets (Alayhis salaam). Hence Masjid al Aqsa is unique in that this is the only place on earth where all the Prophets (Alayhis salaam) performed Salaah in congregation.

2. The Prophet Ibrahim (Abraham) (Alayhis salaam) who is central to all the three faiths, migrated to the land of Canaanite around 1805 BC. The Quran states: “We said, O Fire! Be thou cool and safety for Ibrahim. Then they planned against him, but We made them the greater losers. But We delivered him and (his nephew). Lot (and directed them) to the land which We have blessed for the nations” (Al-Anbiyaa 1: 69-71)

3. The sacredness of Jerusalem is emphasized in
numerous places in the Holy Quran. The Apostles of Allah, Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) and also Prophet Musa (Mosses) [Alayhis salaam] alluded to it. The Holy Quran reports Prophet Musa [Alayhis salaam] telling
his people: “O my people! Enter the holy land… “(Al-Maida 5: 21)
Further the Holy Quran states:
“(It was Our power that made) the violent (unruly) Wind flow (tamely) for Suleiman. To his order, to the land Which We had blessed…” (Al-Anbiyaa 21: 81)

4. Masjid al Aqsa and therefore Jerusalem’s importance was further emphasized by the sayings of Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam):

(a) According to Islamic teachings there are only three places to which it is desirable to undertake a journey for the purpose of Salaah. Abu Huraira [ra] is quoted as saying that Allah’s Messenger [Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam] said, ‘set out deliberately on a journey only to three mosques: this mosque of mine (in Medina), the Sacred
Mosque (in Makkah) and the Masjid al Aqsa (in
Jerusalem) (Bukhari & Muslim)

(b) The virtues of praying in Masjid al Aqsa are exalted: Abu Darda [ra] is quoted as saying that the Prophet of Allah Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, a prayer in the Sacred Mosque (in Makkah) is worth 100, 000 prayers, a prayer in my mosque (in Medina) is worth 1, 000 and a prayer in Jerusalem is worth 500 prayers
more than in an any other mosque. (Bukhari)

(c) The Masjid al Aqsa is the second house of prayer established on earth: Abu Dhar [ra] is quoted as saying, I asked the beloved Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) which was the first mosque on earth? ‘The Sacred Mosque (in Makkah),’ he said. And then which, I asked? ‘Masjid al Aqsa,’ he said. I further asked,
what was the time span between the two? ‘Forty years,’ the Prophet [Alayhis salaam] replied. (Muslim)

5. The Masjid-al-Aqsa was the First Qibla (the direction to which Muslims faced when praying Salaah): The centrality, historical and cultural significance of Masjid al Aqsa is further emphasised by the fact that Muslims used to turn towards Jerusalem when they prayed. This was practiced until 16 to 17 months after hijra, when Allah commanded in His wisdom for the Muslims to face Makkah. The importance of Masjid al Aqsa remained and all the worship performed facing Masjid al Aqsa was good and
valid.

6. The resting place of Prophets [Alayhis salaam] and Prophet’s companions [ra]: The land of Palestine has in it some of the noblest souls the earth has seen. The graves of many Prophet’s are in Palestine, including Ibrahim Alayhis salaam, Yakub Alayhis salaam, Ishaq [peace be upon them] and according to some commentators there are over 100 Prophets buried in Palestine.
Palestine also has the bodies of some of the closest companions of the Prophet and thus the first generation of Muslims. Included in these are the graves of Ubada ibn al Samit, Shaddad ibn Aws ibn Thabit al Ansari and Tamim al Dari [ra].

7. Merits of Performing Haj or Umrah from Masjid al Aqsa: Umm Salamah [ra] narrates that she heard the Prophet [Alayhis salaam] saying, ‘whosoever starts his Umrah or Haj from Masjid al Aqsa his wrong actions will be forgiven, both past and future.’ In another version, he is reported to have said that Paradise would be his reward. (Targheeb)

8. Freedom of the Holy City: After the battle of Yarmuk the Muslim forces under the command of Abu Ubaydahr lay siege to Jerusalem. The
inhabitants consented to surrender on condition that the Khalifa, Umar ibn al Khattab (ra) came in person. Umar [ra] traveled to Palestine and formally received the keys to the city in 637 AD. On his arrival, he concluded the famous peace treaty with the people of Holy City. This opened the doors to the Jews, who were denied access for thousands of years and for the first time Jerusalem under Muslim rule became truly an OPEN CITY to all the three faiths. Throughout Muslim rule of over one thousand two hundred years of Jerusalem, members of Jewish, Christianity and Islam prospered in Jerusalem. Muslim rule enabled the city to live up to its rightful title of ‘The Holy City’ as it encompassed all the believers in One God to go about their business without any hindrance.

Published by: Friends of Al-Aqsa (Islamic Invitation Centre)

Tips for your “Muslim Marriage” – Rights and responding to Challenges

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Muslim couple

Every marriage – no matter how stressful, boring, or happy it may be – can use certain tips to give it a boost. This post reviews two pieces of advice that you could implement today for a better married life. If you’re not married, you too can benefit from the concepts as they are applicable across the board.

The first reminder has to do with becoming cognizant once again about our rights toward our spouses as obligated on us by Allah and His prophet (peace be upon him.) What we married couples often forget is that our “Muslim marriage”, just like the rest of our life’s aspects, is governed by the laws of Islam. These divine laws were communicated, commanded, and taught to us by the prophet (peace be upon him) through the Quran and the traditions of Hadith.

So, the first reminder is nothing more than to become ever conscious that the moment you entered your marriage, you became obligated to respect your spouse’s rights as defined under those divine laws. Claiming ignorance about those rights or your lack of resolve in upholding those rights therefore is not a valid excuse.

The problem in this regard is usually two fold. First, many couples simply aren’t even aware and knowledgeable about the rights that both husbands and wives have over each other. It’s not uncommon for many to rush into marriages with all the fanfare but neglecting to learn Islamic teachings regarding marriage and the rights that husbands and wives have over each other. It’s only when they hit roadblocks in their marriages that they start seeking those answers. Problems surface because each spouse assumes certain rights over the other and each spouse’s personal interpretation of what’s right or wrong complicates relationships even further.

The second problem is that while many of us may take the time to understand how their partner is not meeting their individual rights, they often neglect to learn their obligations toward the other spouse. Driven selfishly, each spouse gets preoccupied with how their partner isn’t contributing to the relationship rather than realizing how one is deficient in fulfilling their own obligations.

In the daily routine of give and take therefore, if your relationship is hitting hurdles, both of you ought to invest the time and effort to learn about those rights and obligations. Use this reminder to make a permanent mental note to help you become conscious of how knowingly or unknowingly you transgress and violate your spouse’s rights. Remember, you will be questioned about them.

Allah says about our obligations in general:

“O you who believe! Fulfill (your) obligations” [Quran: al-Maa’idah 5:1]

“And fulfill (every) covenant. Verily, the covenant will be questioned about” [Quran: al-Isra’ 17:34]

“And whoever transgresses the limits ordained by Allah, then such are the Zalimoon (wrong-doers, etc.)” (Quran: Al-Baqarah; 2:229)

Now to the second reminder – Every relationship is bound to have disagreements, day to day challenges pertaining to a family life, or your spouse just having a “bad day.” These shouldn’t be mistaken for a bad relationship. Where relationships go sour are in how couples respond to such situations. When response to such situations involves disrespect for the other individual, cracks start appearing in relationships. This “disrespect” includes but isn’t limited to putting down the other individual, disregard for the others opinions, raising one’s voice disrespectfully, etc. This then leads to a communications breakdown where disagreements turn into full fledged disputes, small mistakes by one are perceived as crimes by the other, and just an ordinary “bad” day turns worse by spouses ending up in major fights – sometimes climaxing to points of no return.

We should recognize that Allah created us humans and has codified dignity and respect part of our being. Therefore, when we trample over someone leaving them feel disrespected, we are bound to invoke an equal or worse response from our spouses along with sowing in their hearts the seeds of animosity, hatred and mistrust. So, remember that of all the things that we may use at our disposal to relieve stress or resolve a situation, disrespecting the other shouldn’t be one of them.

Both Allah and the prophet (peace be upon him) emphasized the respect and honor that we are entitled to as Muslims and humans. Allah says in the Quran:

“And indeed We have honored the Children of Adam, and We have carried them on land and sea, and have provided them with At-Tayyibat (lawful good things), and have preferred them above many of those whom We have created with a marked preferment.” (Quran: Al-Isra, Chapter #17, Verse #70)

During his last sermon, the prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

“Your BLOOD, your WEALTH and your HONOR are sacred among you, as sacred as this day of yours in this month of yours in this land of yours. Let those who are present convey it to those who are absent; perhaps he will convey it to one who has more understanding than he does.”(Agreed upon, from the hadeeth of Abu Bakrah).

Abdullah bin Umro reported that he saw the Prophet Muhammad going around the Kaabah in Tawaf saying (to the Kaabah):

“How pure are you and how pure is your fragrance. How great is your majesty and your sanctity. By the One in whose hand is the soul of Muhammad (SAWS), the sanctity of a believer in front of Allah is more than your sanctity – His possessions and his life and we always think good of him.” (Reported by Hadith Ibn Majah)

So, remember that a happy marriage is one in which couples find ways to tackle and resolve challenges without being disrespectful to the other. You can have your tough talks as long as you don’t cross the lines in disrespecting each other. Remember that Islam’s teachings never sanctioned to denigrate human dignity even in times of war then how can we in supposed bonds of love step out of that realm?

Conclusion

To conclude, wives can strive to become what the prophet referred to in this hadith:

The Prophet (pbuh) said: “The entire world is full of resources, and among them the best resource is a RIGHTEOUS WIFE.” (Reported by: Abdullah ibn Amr (r) Source: Sahih Muslim, Vol. 2, #3465)

And for men, the prophet had this to say –

“The most complete believer is the best in character, and the best of you is the BEST TO HIS WOMENFOLK.” (Tirmidhi #1162 and verified)

Let’s learn our rights toward each other and let’s not be disrespectful to the other even when we are dealing with tough situations.

—– The IqraSense.com Blogger

Tips for your “Muslim Marriage” – Rights and responding to Challenges

image

Muslim couple

Every marriage – no matter how stressful, boring, or happy it may be – can use certain tips to give it a boost. This post reviews two pieces of advice that you could implement today for a better married life. If you’re not married, you too can benefit from the concepts as they are applicable across the board.

The first reminder has to do with becoming cognizant once again about our rights toward our spouses as obligated on us by Allah and His prophet (peace be upon him.) What we married couples often forget is that our “Muslim marriage”, just like the rest of our life’s aspects, is governed by the laws of Islam. These divine laws were communicated, commanded, and taught to us by the prophet (peace be upon him) through the Quran and the traditions of Hadith.

So, the first reminder is nothing more than to become ever conscious that the moment you entered your marriage, you became obligated to respect your spouse’s rights as defined under those divine laws. Claiming ignorance about those rights or your lack of resolve in upholding those rights therefore is not a valid excuse.

The problem in this regard is usually two fold. First, many couples simply aren’t even aware and knowledgeable about the rights that both husbands and wives have over each other. It’s not uncommon for many to rush into marriages with all the fanfare but neglecting to learn Islamic teachings regarding marriage and the rights that husbands and wives have over each other. It’s only when they hit roadblocks in their marriages that they start seeking those answers. Problems surface because each spouse assumes certain rights over the other and each spouse’s personal interpretation of what’s right or wrong complicates relationships even further.

The second problem is that while many of us may take the time to understand how their partner is not meeting their individual rights, they often neglect to learn their obligations toward the other spouse. Driven selfishly, each spouse gets preoccupied with how their partner isn’t contributing to the relationship rather than realizing how one is deficient in fulfilling their own obligations.

In the daily routine of give and take therefore, if your relationship is hitting hurdles, both of you ought to invest the time and effort to learn about those rights and obligations. Use this reminder to make a permanent mental note to help you become conscious of how knowingly or unknowingly you transgress and violate your spouse’s rights. Remember, you will be questioned about them.

Allah says about our obligations in general:

“O you who believe! Fulfill (your) obligations” [Quran: al-Maa’idah 5:1]

“And fulfill (every) covenant. Verily, the covenant will be questioned about” [Quran: al-Isra’ 17:34]

“And whoever transgresses the limits ordained by Allah, then such are the Zalimoon (wrong-doers, etc.)” (Quran: Al-Baqarah; 2:229)

Now to the second reminder – Every relationship is bound to have disagreements, day to day challenges pertaining to a family life, or your spouse just having a “bad day.” These shouldn’t be mistaken for a bad relationship. Where relationships go sour are in how couples respond to such situations. When response to such situations involves disrespect for the other individual, cracks start appearing in relationships. This “disrespect” includes but isn’t limited to putting down the other individual, disregard for the others opinions, raising one’s voice disrespectfully, etc. This then leads to a communications breakdown where disagreements turn into full fledged disputes, small mistakes by one are perceived as crimes by the other, and just an ordinary “bad” day turns worse by spouses ending up in major fights – sometimes climaxing to points of no return.

We should recognize that Allah created us humans and has codified dignity and respect part of our being. Therefore, when we trample over someone leaving them feel disrespected, we are bound to invoke an equal or worse response from our spouses along with sowing in their hearts the seeds of animosity, hatred and mistrust. So, remember that of all the things that we may use at our disposal to relieve stress or resolve a situation, disrespecting the other shouldn’t be one of them.

Both Allah and the prophet (peace be upon him) emphasized the respect and honor that we are entitled to as Muslims and humans. Allah says in the Quran:

“And indeed We have honored the Children of Adam, and We have carried them on land and sea, and have provided them with At-Tayyibat (lawful good things), and have preferred them above many of those whom We have created with a marked preferment.” (Quran: Al-Isra, Chapter #17, Verse #70)

During his last sermon, the prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

“Your BLOOD, your WEALTH and your HONOR are sacred among you, as sacred as this day of yours in this month of yours in this land of yours. Let those who are present convey it to those who are absent; perhaps he will convey it to one who has more understanding than he does.”(Agreed upon, from the hadeeth of Abu Bakrah).

Abdullah bin Umro reported that he saw the Prophet Muhammad going around the Kaabah in Tawaf saying (to the Kaabah):

“How pure are you and how pure is your fragrance. How great is your majesty and your sanctity. By the One in whose hand is the soul of Muhammad (SAWS), the sanctity of a believer in front of Allah is more than your sanctity – His possessions and his life and we always think good of him.” (Reported by Hadith Ibn Majah)

So, remember that a happy marriage is one in which couples find ways to tackle and resolve challenges without being disrespectful to the other. You can have your tough talks as long as you don’t cross the lines in disrespecting each other. Remember that Islam’s teachings never sanctioned to denigrate human dignity even in times of war then how can we in supposed bonds of love step out of that realm?

Conclusion

To conclude, wives can strive to become what the prophet referred to in this hadith:

The Prophet (pbuh) said: “The entire world is full of resources, and among them the best resource is a RIGHTEOUS WIFE.” (Reported by: Abdullah ibn Amr (r) Source: Sahih Muslim, Vol. 2, #3465)

And for men, the prophet had this to say –

“The most complete believer is the best in character, and the best of you is the BEST TO HIS WOMENFOLK.” (Tirmidhi #1162 and verified)

Let’s learn our rights toward each other and let’s not be disrespectful to the other even when we are dealing with tough situations.

—– The IqraSense.com Blogger